Acceptance is one of the most difficult things to do, especially with your sexuality. It is a very important process and time is a necessity during the coming-out period. For members of the queer community, the immense trauma is mostly caused when they come out to family, friends, and society who are toxic and not understanding. This can take a huge toll on their overall well-being which can pin the person down for the whole life.
While it depends on the individual whether or not they wish to come out to the world, it is also notable that a large section of the society is still not okay with the coming out of as a queer people. They feel uncomfortable and uneasy because of their conventional beliefs and they may take some time to accept revelations like these. To make it simpler for you to open up to them, here are 8 ways with which you can communicate your true feelings:
1. Take your time: Time is the only thing that helps in understanding certain things. Sexuality is one among them. When you are finally ready to come out, it is always advisable to take some time out to think about the way of communication you will be using to your closed one. This can make them understand the scenario better and be respectful towards you.
2. Note down your worries and concerns: Before speaking about your sexuality to your close once, write down everything that's worrying you. You can also write things which can worry the other person. Emphasize most on the common issues between you two and make sure you give them every reason to not worry. Writing down the issues can make you see clearly how you are going to tackle them.
3. Go with a positive frame of mind: Coming out is not always traumatic as you think or imagine. It gives you a sense of honesty and freedom to be you in front of the people who matter to you the most. Every coming-out story blended with courage is an inspiration and, just feel that yours will be one among them that will inspire a lot of people around you.
4. Don’t stress too much about their reactions: Stress can make things worse. We often tend to stop ourselves from expressing our true feelings as we fear the reactions of other people around us. However, being too sensitive about others’ feelings can cost us our own- it is important to leave the notion about what others will think and rather focus on what we have to convey to them.
5. Tell yourself “it’s okay”: It's okay to take your time and not rush into it. Be prepared for the best and worst reactions. Your loved ones may not have the knowledge, exposure, or the mentality to take this matter as easy as you think. But trust me, It's okay, It's going to be and they will eventually understand after a point when you gradually educate them.
7. Try different ways: It's not always necessary to have a face-to-face conversation with the person you want to open up. Try conversing in other ways like writing a letter or a text message or a voice note which makes you feel more comfortable.
8. Build a support network: It's always great to surround yourself with people who are like-minded and understanding. Being in a non-judgemental community can boost up your confidence and also make you feel less lonely. You can join the Fuzia wellness community which can make you feel secure and also keep you entertained with fun and intellectual events!
Remember, while it is important, to be honest about yourself, it is not necessary to open up to people who you think can add to your trauma. It is always best to ask for support, there is no shame in asking for help. No one has to suffer in silence and we are always here to help with top experts on board. Trauma can be hard and messy at times. We are here to walk with you throughout your journey. It's our Promise!
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Author: Prachi Kothari
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